Having been through two DIY weddings in the last couple of years I have a few thoughts that rumble through my mind regarding a beautiful DIY wedding from the Mother of the Bride perspective.
1. Make your list, one list! We had lists for this and lists for that and eventually they all became mixed with each other. It would have been so much easier on us to have one page with everything in categories, printed and saved on the computer so we could modify and reprint as necessary.
2. Prepare for anything, HA. Both weddings were outdoors. The first one turned out to be a glorious sunny and somewhat windy day. How were we to ever guess that the winds would be gusting at 30 mph? in the open farmhouse field. Yep, we had table top disasters. Second wedding we had ideas for how to handle the wind should it kick up. HEAVY decorations haha. In any case, you can not prepare for everything, but my lesson learned with wedding number 1 would be to prepare my brain and heart that things might not go as planned and to move on. It was hard to let go of our initial idea and realize that all table decorations would now be stacked together to create an awesome display with hay bales by the food tables.
Notice the little tree in the background. Normally it stands nice and tall and straight.
3. Get help! When you think you have enough, get some more. The day goes so quickly that setting up all of the beautiful creations you have made will be much better with more help.
4. Give in to letting some things go. Enjoy the day as it occurs and realize that the entire day will be the memory, not just the ceremony. My daughter would have had a hair style that might have held up better on the beach had she not
a) gone for ice cream at the corner ice cream store with her bridesmaids on the spur of the moment {how could one of the girls go back to her state without stopping in for ice cream}
b) run down the street in her PJs with her father {who was not in PJ’s 🙂 } to see what the commotion was when a helicopter flew overhead and landed nearby.
But those memories are way more important than a hairstyle. And in the end, her hair was beachy and pretty and so much her personality.
5. {this is the most important one for me} Give your vision to someone else. Although I had great help setting up, my daughter and I were the only ones with the true vision of what we wanted. Therefor, every single aspect involved us stopping what we were doing to give someone the vision of exactly how their job was to be carried out. Looking back, I would certainly have talked it out beforehand and maybe a few diagrams would have been terrific.
When all is said and done, you will be left with some terrific memories to sit back and reflect upon.
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